It definitely feels like a month has passed in Aguascalientes since my last blog post. Time here moves so slooooowly! No problem though, because I'm thoroughly enjoying myself each and every day. I left off last time the night before I was to perform two songs in the UAA auditorium during a mystery event. It turned out to be an Award Recognition Ceremony for outstanding students in the Languages Department, and it was kinda fancy (they didn't warn me about that part, so I had no choice but to reinforce the casual Californian stereotype). No matter, everyone loved my trilingual version of "The Blower's Daughter" and I even got the crowd to sing during my rendition of "Waiting on the World to Change." After the performance, I was congratulated by a lot of budding groupies and took a bunch of pictures with Mexicans who subsequently added me on Facebook.
I'm almost done with my first full week of classes, and they're going splendidly. I like getting to know all the students, fielding their thoughtful questions about me, and surprising them with Mexican slang when they least expect it. I dislike starting class every day at 7am... But I guess that's the price I pay for three-day weekends, right? So far in most of the classes we're continuing with the Q&A set-up to learn about each other, and traveling has come up in a fair number of questions. "Mateo, how do you pay for all these trips? You must be rich, right?" Something I struggled with frequently in Brazil was the need to combat the assumption from peers that because I came from the United States, I automatically came from money. My new Mexican friends are no different in that regard. Because our school systems are vastly different and financial aid to the extent of Harvard's doesn't exist in Latin America, it's hard for them to grasp that students from low-income households can study in such a prestigious institution and travel extensively on its account. When they ask, "Is it true that you've visited thirty countries?" a simple yes is a dangerous answer. If I'm not careful to explain how all that traveling occurred, the students are liable to instinctively place me in a class separate from themselves. "It's cool that Mateo has seen the world, but that will never be me." I strive to explain that despite our distinct backgrounds, there's no categorical difference between them and Harvard students. Mexican students are accepted yearly at Harvard, just like Brazilian students. It comes down to how much they want it, and how many obstacles they're willing to overcome in order to achieve their dream.
Wait a minute. We're not talking about Harvard anymore- now we're talking about 24-year-old Diana's ultimate wish to visit the coast of Jalisco. It's only seven hours away from Aguascalientes, and the round-trip bus fare is 750 pesos (around 57 dollars). I had asked the students a hypothetical question: "If you could go anywhere in the world for free, where would you go?" Diana's answer reflects a philosophy shared by a huge percentage of the population, not just in Mexico but also in the United States and most places around the globe. Indeed, it was my philosophy before I got to Harvard and met amazing people who changed my worldview. It's the "Must Be Nice" philosophy, which I have come to thoroughly despise for the way it holds people back from conquering their dreams. "It must be nice to travel the world, but that will never be me. I don't have the money/time/language/courage/freedom to do it, so I'll live vicariously through you."
I'm a humble 23-year-old who doesn't claim to know much about anything, but allow me to give a quick life lesson to all you readers: DON'T EVER LIVE VICARIOUSLY. You only have one life to live- why on earth would you spend it watching others do things you wished you could be doing yourself?! There aren't enough obstacles on the planet to successfully deter someone with a genuinely resolute desire to reach a personal goal. At this point in my life, it's unthinkable that 57 dollars and an overnight bus could keep me from realizing my ultimate travel goal. But I'm discovering that my students and many of my friends and family members are held back in much the same way, albeit with bigger costs and greater distances. Think about this for a minute: If you save two dollars a day for two years, you can buy a plane ticket to any destination on earth. Most places cost significantly less than that. Lots of people spend that amount (or more) daily on coffee or parking. There are ways to overcome every obstacle keeping you from your dreams, and now I'm not even talking about traveling anymore. Do you want to learn how to play guitar? Have you always wished you knew how to sail? No more excuses- start working towards your goal today! YOU CAN DO IT.